Nothing to Fix

The New Year is right around the corner & I’m waiting in anticipation of kissing 2016 goodbye.   What an overwhelming, heartbreaking, ass kicking, mother licking year.  Holy Sh*t!!!

Seriously, there were several weeks throughout the year when life would smack me down.  Just as I was trying to figure out how to get back up, life would throw another sucker punch and down I’d go again.  Any of you experience any of that?  It has just been one of those years.

They come along ever so often and wreak havoc on the status quo. They rock our worlds; they mess with our perception of life, throwing us for a loop and landing us on our backs trying to find a way to breathe again.

By the time we get up we are just in shock.  Shock at the loss and grief that makes us wonder how the hell we’re going to pull it all back together once again.  Ass-kicking years is what they are. Damn.

The worst thing about these ass-kicking years is that they make you feel like crap about yourself.

Is 2017 destined to be one of these years too?

I hastily began scribbling down New Year’s resolutions almost as way to ward off impending disaster.

That’s when a note arrived from a dear friend whom I admire greatly. She’s met heartbreak and sorrow straight on and made incredibly brave choices for herself that have meant she had to walk through hell to find herself, but she did it.  She is amazing.  Her note couldn’t have come at a better time.

As you, dear reader, prepare for the New Year, may these words guide your way.  She said they came to her during yoga:

“You are enough, just as you are. There is nothing to do, nothing to fix. Right now, right here, you are perfect and just as you are expected to be.

Perfect… nothing to fix…..”


This mantra/New Year’s resolution is going inside my medicine cabinet and each morning, I’ll repeat this until the old tape in my head fades and the new tape takes its place.  I wish this for all of you.  To know that with your struggles, your ups and downs, heartbreaks and disappointments, there is much joy and love ahead.  None of that crap that happened last year had anything to do with how wonderful and worthy you are.  Whatever path you are on will right itself and explain its purpose in time. You just aren’t there yet but if you keep moving forward, you’ll get there soon.

Happy New Year, friends.  You are perfect.


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1 Comment
  • Pat White
    Posted at 18:07h, 29 December Reply

    Arlene, What an amazing and wonderful woman you have grown into! I love these writings of yours. You are truly gifted with the ability to express your feelings so well. I shouldn’t be surprised, since your Mom can do the same! I love you both so much, and am so blessed to have you both in my life.

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